They hypocrisy of Gay Marriage and why government should get out of the marriage business.
Advocates of 'gay marriage' claim that they are fighting for 'equal rights', but in reality what they are pushing for is to have 'privileged rights' extended to themselves. This by itself is hardly surprising, all groups like to advocate special rights for themselves, but the hypocrisy in this case is too great to ignore.
For centuries homosexuals have had to suffer discrimination and abuse, fortunately as the dark ages have started to fade illuminated by enlightenment and humanism this discrimination and abuse have also diminished. Because all this they should know better than now ask for special rights.
Why instead of railing against the special treatment received by married couples do they want those 'rights' extended to another special group that suits now suits them?
Why it is not OK to discriminate against gays but it is fine to discriminate against singles, polygamous, unmarried couples or any other of the infinite possible forms of interpersonal relationships?
When 'strong artificial intelligence' becomes a reality (hah!), will we have another movement for 'AI marriage'?
What is 'marriage' anyway?
Marriage is a cultural and religious tradition, but traditions exist to be changed and adapt to new times, and in any modern secular society no religion can claim any authority over anyone other than its willful followers.
So why should government ever dictate the meaning and rules that should govern a tradition? Why should government endorse a particular form of this tradition?
There is no justification for the word 'marriage' to be part of any law. And if so inclined, it should be up to the involved parties to come up with a contractual agreement that fits their wishes.
Not only this, but any involvement of government in trying to define 'marriage' would be go directly against the basic principles of separation of church and state, and by eroding that separation advocates for 'gay marriage' are basically conceding that their religious opponents are right and that religion and politics should be allowed to mix.
Religious followers should also oppose governments being involved in defining marriage, some day their particular religious group wont be in control of government and they will have to accept a new definition they don't agree with (as is happening right now in places that start to recognize gay marriages).
If religious really care about being able to decide what marriage means, for them, the only way to ensure this is to keep government out of it, of course any religion with political power soon forgets this and tries to enforce their views on everyone else. Yet another example of how religion while claiming the omnipotent authority of God always seems to need the help of government to enforce their ideas on others.
If you are a religious person, why do you need a government law that dictates what marriage means for you? If you really believe, shouldn't you follow your religious laws anyway? Let your religion decide what marriage means, and if you disagree nothing keeps you from switching religions or even creating your own (or just doing away with the whole archaic concept of religion).
But, think of the children!
Amusingly enough, a rather common argument I often hear in defense of 'marriage' is that it somehow helps protect children (exactly how nobody has explained to me). Nevermind that in modern societies most children have either unmarried parents or divorced parents.
Even somehow it was true that marriage has some benefit for children, why should children of couples that decided to get married get special treatment? What about children of unmarried parents? Or of single parents? or orphans? or adoptive children?
Specially given that children have no saying on the married status of their parents it seems extremely unfair to endow some of them with some (supposed) benefits and not others.
Whatever legal benefits marriage provides for children they should apply to all children.
Conclusion
The only way to really end all discrimination related to marriage is to get government out of the marriage business.
See also
- Privatize Marriage!
- Taking Marriage Private by Stephanie Coontz.
- Beyond Straight and Gay Marriage, Valuing All Families Under The Law by Nancy D. Polikoff.